07Aug 2021

Pines away when left alone…

Those of us that acquired pets during lockdown need to take a care that they don’t get lonesome now they are left alone for stretches of time.

Are you guilty of this neglect?

Here are a few tips to keep them safe when you are busy elsewhere:

Keep them safe and locked away in a cage or securely restrained.

A few toys to keep them occupied.

A bowl of water within easy reach.

Perhaps some nourishment if they are left for long periods.

Unless sensory deprevation is the aim a radio left on for company.

The above will hopefully stop over excitement or even uncontrolled sobbing on your return.

While I am enjoying my British waters cruise, courtesy of a loyal servant, I have ensured my pet will be cared for.  What can I say it would never do if I was to return to a mess and have to take training back to basic training when he has been doing so well.

For those of you concerned as to my arrangements clearly my loyal servant will be accompaning me on said cruise and pandering to me every whim and fancy.

See you again next week on my return.

Ms Birch x

08Jun 2021

Over the last couple of years two men who were each important to me for different reasons explained they lived their lives as a lie trying to “do the right thing”.  Each had terrible consequences as doing “the right thing” led to them and their loved ones being desperately unhappy and disappointed.  Living a lie is never the right thing.  I’m pleased to say one of those with the help of intense counselling came out of a very dark place happier and more confident and is now learning who they really are.  The other sadly continues to make himself and those around him extremely unhappy by “doing the right thing”.

How many of you are living your lives trying to “do the right thing”?  The better description of that may be living as someone other than yourself to fit into a box of what you perceive is expected of you.

How can you think it makes anyone around you happy knowing that you aren’t being true to yourself and miserable in a futile attempt to please them?

This is an issue that goes far beyond coming to terms with kinks and fetishes but affects everyday life too.  If you feel you need to lie to make others feel better about you, that is an issue.

Invariably this results in a lack of fulfilment as you can never achieve the perfection imposed by your own mind.

Why do you lie?  Is it that you want to be liked?  Why do you feel you can’t be liked as the real you?

Why do you think others have such impossible expectations of you?  Do others really expect of you what you are putting on yourself?

Are you making the people around you happy by being this false version of yourself?  Doubtful, those around you will know that there is something amiss.

Stand back and consider where these notions originally came from.  Have you simply created a scenario that is the easier option?  Will the world dramatically end if you become yourself?  Being honest about who you are and your own wants, needs and desires will help those that love you understand you better.

Before you suddenly declare to the world think carefully who you sound off to and how.

Clearly not everyone is interested, the work colleague who sat across from you 2 years ago or a random stranger isn’t going to care but those that love you hopefully will.  If they aren’t interested or indeed don’t care maybe it’s time to let go of the perceived security blanket holding you to them and make your own way being YOU.

Lots of people, but I’ve found men, struggle to let go of the apron strings whether that be the aprons of their mothers or partners through fear of change.  Scary as it seems at first, there is no doubt change can be scary, you can do it.  It may not be perfect to start with, but it will be true.

To be taken seriously you need to be calm and clear in your own head and allow the person you discuss you with the time to absorb and understand.  Suddenly declaring you want a deep discussion about something so massive and totally out of the blue isn’t fair and won’t get you the reaction you desire.  Be kind and considerate and respect the enormity of the shock you are laying on your confidante.  They had become accustomed to believing in your lie and will need time to learn to love the truth of you.

Now is the perfect time to reassess where you are.  Everything in the world changed and we are now beginning the journey to normalising, akin to awakening from a cocoon.  You can take this opportunity to go down a different path to the one you found you were trudging along before Covid-19 turned our lives upside down and inside out.

I too have done a lot of soul searching and worked out what I desire of my life and what is feasible.  Don’t misunderstand, I have never been afraid of change but am someone who embraces it.  It could be said that I seek out change.  I assume that comes from an original starting point where change could only result in an improvement, I have lived my life on that basis since.

I am in a privileged position that due to unexpected life events prior to the first lockdown I had to reassess my life with the new understanding that it is a precious gift not to be wasted.  The lockdowns have enabled me to recuperate and prepare for the new me.  I feel more balanced in my understanding of me and focused on how I wish to pursue my life.  Perhaps feistier, definitely more passionate about the things that matter and totally indifferent to those that don’t.  I will let you know in future musings how this reflects in my sessions but let’s just say I’m more confident about my journey and who I am knowing I am the master of my own destiny.

There is a lot to be said for having inner peace and contentment.

Ms Birch x

16Jun 2020

The beauty of Nature

As we prepare to return to some semblance of normal after several months of time, lots of time, we start to wave goodbye to our lockdown routines, maybe with a little regret, and tentatively embrace the new world that awaits us.

So what will you miss most about your routine that has evolved over the last couple of months?

For me, it will be the ability to linger over tasks that would have previously been rushed.  The walk instead of the drive.  The time to think things through and the anticipation of starting afresh when we are able to.

I particularly enjoy the walk to my local shop, ok it’s countrified here, so it’s a several mile walk of sauntering down country lanes, through woods and over fields.  I’ve documented my route in the attached picture for you to share the beauty of nature with me.  Idyllic isn’t it?  It’s already started to change though – as more cars hit the roads as the owners come out of their hibernation the country lane is less of a stroll and more of a dive into the hedge to avoid the oncoming hunks of metal.  It was good while it lasted.

So now is the time to think about preparing for my return.  Like the majority of ProDommes I do not know exactly when this will be but soon.  I am keeping a close eye on the updates and will let you know as soon as I do.  I will also post my new mobile number closer to the time.

Here’s to you entertaining me with your torment in the near future.

Ms Birch x


14Mar 2019

Life takes over and rather than stretch ourselves we drift into a rut and slowly over the years the frustration at our situation begins to eat away.  Everyone of us are guilty of this at some stage in our life, me included.

We don’t always appreciate it but each of us have the ability to change this.  Grab at life’s opportunities or indeed make our own opportunities!

Only you can empower yourself to step outside of your comfort zone, give it a go you will probably find it changes you for the better.  I for one am going to step out of my comfort zone and with my trusted slaves will be experimenting in different areas that have caught my interest.  I may not enjoy some of them, but I won’t know until I have given it a good go and others, I’m sure I will love and add to my repertoire.

When you are ready to step outside of your comfort zone contact me and let’s start our journey together.

I do listen to your requirements and tailor your session to you, no standard approach here.

25Jan 2019

Hanging Around

Happy belated New Year!

Where have the last couple of weeks gone?  It’s all seems to have disappeared in a haze of being busy not appearing to do very much.

I miss having my own Chambers set up but don’t worry sessions are still good fun in my domestic setting here in as the above pictures shows.  With my wicked imagination the pleasurable torment still flows.

I have now literally only got weeks left (8 I think) to find a new setting before my lease ends at my current property.  It’s my choice not to renew even though I adore the property, which with all it’s amazing features lends itself perfectly to a dungeon environment, but sadly I’m not enamoured with the lack of maintenance by the owner of the building.

So I’m look for a premises be it commercial or domestic that would suit my demanding needs either here or further afield or then again should I be looking to return to the south coast?  A bit of a dilema but I need to lay down some roots somewhere soon.  Three or four moves within a 12 month period are not good for the soul.  Any landlords with a well maintained and discreet property (domestic or commercial considered) to rent for my sole use, I don’t share, do get in touch and we can talk.  I’ve found a few possibilities but each has a problem; either ridiculously over priced or up with an agent I wouldn’t trust to boil a kettle let alone deal with such a major transaction.  The latest property I found appears to be right, or is that just wishful thinking, but has the potential of too many repairs needed on a self-repairing commercial lease basis.

I hate being in limbo, I like structure and plans but I’ve got uncertainty and my lounge at home has become akin to a rather large storage unit with packing boxes taking over.

Wish me luck in my search or make it your mission to impress me by finding the “right” premises.

Keep an eye on my website as I’ve got a very special treat planned for sessions booked for February details to follow.

Ms Birch x


23Sep 2018

I do appreciate how nerve wracking it is contacting  Professional Dominatrix for the first time and newbies are more than welcome here where you can experience your fantasy of submitting to a dominant lady.  I will provide you with a bespoke session after listening to your needs.

However, before you contact me please do bear in mind that if you are too nervous to turn up for the session you book you will be wasting not only your own time but more importantly mine.  I don’t give second chances!

You will know your own character and as to where you mindset is, Perhaps you fall into one of the following categories:

  1. You truly long to experience a session and are eager to fulfil this fantasy
  2. You would like to experience a session but are so nervous so maybe you will just ring up a Professional Dominatrix and chat to get your kicks
  3. You like the idea of visiting a Professional Dominatrix but would never follow it through so will just ring up and waste the Dommes time
  4. You are confused and not sure what is right for you

There is a solution for each of these scenarios:

  1. Check your areas of interest match those of the Professional Dominatrix you wish to meet and simply ring up to book.  You will need to know the date, time and duration that you are available to attend and experience something that will stay with you for a long, long time.
  2. If you have no intention of booking please do not was a Professional Dommes time, she will be able to tell.  I offer a “Tea Room” option that may be ideal for you but only book if you know you would definitely turn up.  You can chat to your hearts content with someone who knows and won’t judge where you are.  You will be able to look around my Chambers and then either book or go away and think about whether a session is for you.
  3. Show respect for the Professional Dommes time and stay away from that phone!
  4. A chat in the “Tea Room” is simply perfect for you.  Just give me a call to arrange and I can help you make sense of the confusion.

I look forward to welcoming the genuine newbies into my world.

Ms Birch x


31Aug 2018

Cane Discipline

Your lucky buttocks are in for a treat!

I’ve added a few delights to my cane collection, derlin, manila, rattan and fibreglass.

Present yourself appropriately to feel the wonderful sting as they connect to your skin and glow with the beautiful stripes that will adorn your body when you leave feeling fully drained of the stresses of life.

You are required to report for your delightful punishment asap!

15Apr 2018

You’ve noticed haven’t you?  My wonderful crisp new website of course.

Hope you like it as much as I do.  It more accurately reflects me now and even better it has room for advising you of exciting new developments as they occur.

Thank you to my fabulous webmaster for all his hard work redesigning and updating my website, I’m sure you will agree he’s done a grand job.

Keep an eye out as I have lots of new pictures coming too.

Have a read through and give me a call to arrange your session with me.

18Mar 2018

I’m back and refreshed after my wonderful birthday break exploring Berlin – simply fabulous.

I doubt there is a single street I haven’t actually wondered down in the fabulous city – I took exploring to a whole new level from enjoying a lovely meal in the revolving TV tower to going underground in an original bunker, going to the theatre to watch the incredible show “The ONE Grand Show”, to climbing to steep steps to the garden above the water tower in Prenzlauer Berg with it’s heart breaking history.  If I ever got the opportunity to live in Berlin it would be Prenzlauer Berg the former eastern side of the wall but now gentrified and just beautiful.

I’m pleased to say after all my exploring I can now move again without pain killers so be warned full torment is now resumed.

Sorry to those I had to disappoint cancelling my trip to West Yorkshire but sadly I was unexpectedly left without a vehicle.  Hopefully, I will be able to rearrange in the near future.

Sessions are available this coming week (in Southampton).  When calling you need to be prepared to leave a message clearly stating the date, time and duration of the session you wish to arrange, and I will call you back.  I know the genuine amongst you don’t mind doing this.  It has been necessary to go down this route as I am constantly breaking off from work to find the call was just another fantasist with no intention of arranging a session but merely attention seeking.

Fantasists should remember I’m running a professional business not a charity and DO NOT offer free chat, emailing, texting or even sessions.  Just like you when you go to work you expect to be paid, shocking I know but so do I!

Those of you that are eagerly waiting for my new designed website, that had taken me weeks to redesign and rewrite, there has been a lengthy delay due to the webmaster being too busy to do this.  Any volunteers with expertise in this area to sort this out for me?

I look forward to tormenting you next week.

Ms Birch x

05Mar 2018

Ms Amelia Birch in fabulous new wet-look dress


So, you think I am so weak that I will be swayed with a bit of bribery? I must admit I did feel a bit of a flutter as I picked up the parcels from the Royal Mail office but do not take that as an indication that I am going soft.

Even though you send me lovely items from my favourite shops, Honour and Hawes & Curtis, a rather gorgeous wet-look dress, and lovely blouses [see picture] let me tell you now, quite clearly, YOU WILL STAY IN CHASTITY!

For goodness sake it’s only been 5 weeks. Granted I had forgotten about your predicament until you began snivelling about your discomfort, but I will be the one to decide when you are allowed release and no amount of begging will change that. You will continue in your distracted state at least until I return from my trips away when I will consider your situation.

You may gaze at the picture of me wearing my new dress and imagine how wonderful it would be to feel the soft satin stroke your nakedness as I glided by you wearing the dark blouse.

Ms Birch x