There is a place for fantasy and let’s face it most of what I do is based on fantasy but when YOU are trapped in the realm of fantasy and unable to connect to reality this is sadly a one-way ticket to disappointment.
I see it all the time, emails from the unrealistic complaining about “let downs” by other Mistresses but when you try to drill down why they feel “let down” it usually comes down to their “perfect fantasy” wasn’t fulfilled. In most cases the reality can never ever match what is in their head.
The imagination is an amazing thing where anything and everything is possible, you can magically float on air, your body can be distorted in a variety of impossible positions without breaking or dislocating, you can tolerate incredible temperatures without burning etc etc . Imagination enables you to do anything and you don’t have to consider your own physical restrictions, your safety or even what equipment is needed.
The more sensible “fantasists” realise that imagination feeds the impossible and that is why many choose to visit an experienced professional dominatrix as they know their wellbeing is of the utmost importance and their requirements as far as humanly possibly will be catered for with skill and grace and enjoy the pleasures of sensations whether they be tormenting or enjoyable in a subspace leaving the issues of “reality” in the hands of your dominatrix.
The less experienced “fantasist” will simply continue to chase the impossible blaming those around them for their own lack of ability to tune into a happy place between the unachievable fantasy and the restrictions of reality. These are the people that have no respect for the time of others and will happily attempt to waste my time.
So, to help those that are deluded in their thinking that an initial contact of a wank email (or indeed phone call) will impress I have summarised below what to include and what to avoid:
A polite salutation addressing me correctly
A succinct and polite request for the date, time and duration you wish to session. Obviously the broader the range of time you have available the more likely you are to find a gap in my busy diary.
A brief note of your experience. I do not want to know details of every encounter you have had since the age of 18, what your past dommes enjoyed, what your wife likes or doesn’t like! I will have given up reading your email before I get to the second sentence. A mere “This is my first visit to a professional dominatrix” or “I have many years’ experience in xx” will do.
A note of your likes, ie specific areas such as CP or electroplay and to what level. Stating “BDSM” tells me nothing other than you have no idea about anything.
A note of your hard limits.
You also need to include your mobile phone number, so it can be noted on my phone for when you are requested to call.
Remember to always be polite and courteous any derogatory language will simply result in you being blocked.
If you feel you can’t get across what you are looking for in this format I would recommend you stay safely cosseted in your own imagination rather than waste the time of real people.
Ms Birch x